Family - are we flying or falling apart

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It was getting very hot, so in the evening I went to the terrace with my son. After going to the terrace, the son started playing here and there on the terrace and I started walking and looking here and there. My eyes fell on a flock of flying birds who were returning to their places after dusk. Although now we do not see as many flocks of birds as before, but still a few are seen.

flock of birds

I called my son near and pointing towards those birds said, look at that flock of birds, they are flying towards their homes. The son said, yes, I know that they are birds and they fly like that. I said, "Yes, but do you know why they fly together like that and why they make different shapes while flying?"Because in this way they can fly easily while cutting the air. A single bird cannot fly very far cutting the air so easily. If the wind blows very strongly, it will become very difficult for a single bird to fly forward. That's why they fly together like this and return to their homes and in the morning they come out together again to feed.

While saying this, my finger was pointed towards those flying birds. Something bothered me. I remained there for a while pointing my finger towards those birds. After that I asked my son to play. The son got engrossed in playing and I stood in a corner and kept looking at the flock of flying birds which had now gone far away and were disappearing from sight. I was thinking that what I told my son about that group of birds was not just about the group of birds. In this matter, for me and for all of you, an important secret of life or a message is hidden.

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Those birds were flying together. They were supporting each other so that their journey was going smoothly. Doesn't something similar happen with us when we humans keep helping each other in the journey of life, in any work, be it money related, job related, or any kind of problem. If everyone starts helping each other with good intentions, then can't the journey of our lives pass easily and happily?

Remember that time in your life when you were young and you had many friends of your age. You talk openly to each other. From eating tiffin food to collecting sports equipment, they cooperate with each other equally. Sometimes there would be some fights over some things and after some time they would forget everything and become friends again. Even if you don't do anything, it would have been a great time when all your friends would just sit together and talk about this and that, tease each other a little or make fun of each other. That time must have been so good that remembering that time you would feel very good even today. Many people might even think that remembering that time, they wish it could come back.

However, being a boy, I am saying these things from the boys' perspective. But the girls' point of view would also be similar, they too would be remembering those moments. But the thing to understand is why we remember those times and why those times were so good and golden, why we cannot feel the same today and why we cannot live a happy life with each other. Because that is the age when everything seems good and the childhood of eighties and nineties was something different.

And one thing can happen even today if we wish and try. At that time, our ego did not dominate us, if even today we do not let our ego dominate us and adopt the same attitude of equality for everyone as was the case at that time. A friend was only a friend for us. We loved talking with him, loved playing, loved eating food, loved helping each other in studies, school work and household chores whenever needed. It didn't matter to us what his economic status was, where he was from, what language he spoke, what his religion was, what was the history of his community, etc. Even if there was discussion on all these issues, it felt good to know all these things about each other and there was also interest in understanding each other but there was never any bad feeling towards each other that it is bad or not. His ancestors did this or that, or our ancestors were great and his ancestors were bad, etc.

However, it is the feeling of friendship and the feeling of helping each other that brings us together. If we see, if there is no good intention and feeling of friendship towards each other, then even the relatives remain in name only, whether it is the relationship of real brothers or any other kind of relationship.

If I talk about my family, even though we were not very rich earlier, we all lived together and lived with a sense of belonging, due to which we all had a bond and in a way everyone felt safe.

Even though everything was fine, everything slowly started falling apart and it started with that generation in my family which was not very educated and most of the people were illiterate, but most or all of them got government jobs as soon as they came out of the village and they moved ahead in life in every way, with money, property, in every way. They educated their next generation and tried to make them better than them, which is really praiseworthy.

But along with it, their foolishness, the mentality of suppressing people, their stubbornness that whatever they think is right, their next generation or anyone else cannot be right in front of them, kept increasing. Due to lack of moral education, people say anything about someone in a fit of enthusiasm, gossip, sit quietly for some time when things go wrong, but instead of understanding the lesson, start the same thing again after some time. Apart from this, the arrogance of increasing wealth has added fuel to the fire of all these evils.

However, that generation has become old now and some people have even said goodbye to this world. But this generation, which educated them and tried to make them better than themselves, has also sown the seeds of stubbornness, separatism, hatred, selfishness in the same generation which has flourished a lot. This educated generation, that is, the generation before me, is also no less. These educated people had realized long ago what is right and what is wrong, but instead of improving the situation, these people thought it better to pursue their own selfish interests and instead of trying to end the evils, they kept promoting them silently. 

It will not be wrong to say that there was a generation which was illiterate and there is a generation before me which is educated but uneducated because if you sit and talk to this educated generation, they will understand less of what the other person is saying and will start talking more about themselves. They will also not talk about their well-being or happiness and sorrows, will show off their status and will start telling the price of things without asking. And jealousy and hatred towards each other continues. There is my generation which is confused as to what should be done. Whatever is happening should continue to happen or some measures should be taken, if measures are taken then what should be taken. Some people who are living on very good salaries are happy in their own world and have broken contact in a way, their contact numbers are saved in their mobiles just for the sake of saying. 

the sadness

If we look at the whole picture, those who are very successful do not like to go or sit with people who are less successful than them and those who have not been successful at all have a feeling of jealousy towards the successful ones and there are also people like me who are neither very successful nor unsuccessful and are somehow managing to earn their livelihood and are confused about their livelihood and the circumstances as to what could be the solution. It seems that everything should be left to time and we should not do anything wrong from our side. But the truth is that we are not flying together like those birds but separately and the gusts of wind are slowly weakening everyone from within and the speed of flying is also decreasing, it is just the inner ego, stubbornness and feeling of jealousy that is not letting us realize that we are not flying but falling apart. 

Well this is not just about one family but the same thing is happening in our country as well. The citizens of this country whether educated or illiterate, rich or poor or facing any problem are getting divided in the name of political parties, religion, community, history and this is being done in a big way and shamelessly so that people are not able to pay attention to the real problem and remain entangled in it. But if the common people really want to move ahead then they will have to fly together like those birds so that the problems that come up can be dealt with successfully.

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